Post SHTF: What Will You Do When They Come? How Much Can You Give Away Before Putting Your Own Family In Danger?


There is a common theme amongst preppers. You prepare, want to tell others about your preparations, and want others to prepare – but you’re hesitant to talk about it. You’re afraid that if some serious catastrophe happens, everyone will come to you for help. It’s hard enough prepping for you and your family, let alone prepping for others.

Inevitably someone will find out. Maybe you tell a friend (or two) or maybe a few family members. Maybe you meet someone who is like-minded, so you tell them. Then you realize the people aren’t prepared at all, they just talk about it. Maybe your friends’ idea of prepping is to buy guns and ammo … and nothing else. Who hasn’t heard “if the shit goes down I’ll just come to your place”? And you can picture these people rolling into your driveway after the SHTF, guns in hand, expecting to survive anything with their guns and your food. Then you begin to wonder if you should have told anyone at all.

You’ll eventually ask yourself the question, “what will I do if they come?” Could I turn a hungry friend away? Could I turn a friend’s starving child away?

You don’t know until you’re in the situation, and the answer varies depending on the exact situation. For example, if you’re sitting on 6 month’s worth of food and an earthquake just hit, sharing food with friends is an obvious decision. If a few nukes hit, you have 3 kids and virtually no food, turning hungry friends away is also an obvious decision.

Let’s set the scene. The crap has well and truly hit the fan, it could be a financial collapse, civil unrest, martial law or any other trigger from the list and it’s time to batten down the hatches, escape to your bug out location or retreat to your bunker.

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Whatever your plans are for a SHTF scenario, there is this unavoidable element that you should plan for ahead of time to avoid a possible life-threatening decision/mistake when it really matters.

We will look at each group of people in turn and propose some pros and cons to letting those people into your bunker to share your preps or turning them away empty handed.


First up we have the immediate family members, Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother and their kids, maybe even your grandparents, also aunties, uncles, and cousins.

It’s a long list, it really is. That’s a lot of people who may turn to you in the event of a disaster and ask, or even expect you to take them in, feed them, clothe them, give them water and basically look after them because they didn’t prepare.

Now I know there are some of you out there who will scoff and say it’s an easy decision, they’re your family so you let them in. And I do agree with you, I certainly would and many of you would too, however, there are those in the survival and prepper communities that would happily turn their backs on a family if they didn’t have enough to keep them all alive.

Is this wrong? I don’t know, all I know if that for me and the vast majority of you reading this will open those doors and let them in. Heck, you’re parents brought you into this world are you really going to turn them away?

I also believe there is some very logical thinking going on inside the heads of those that would turn them away. I mean you have a small family of 4, you’ve prepared enough supplies to last 6 months for those 4 people. If you let in just 2 people you’ve immediately cut your survival time down drastically.

If your brother or sister turns up with their kids, you could be looking at reducing that 6 months down to a few weeks per person. Kinda makes you think, doesn’t it?

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We all have friends, some of us are just as close and see our friends just as often as we do our own family members. It will be hard for many of us to turn away our buddy of 20 years if he/she was to turn up after an event that caused people to panic, loot, riot and cause harm to each other.

The saving grace in this situation is that you are very likely to know your friends, their habits, their mindset and if they will bring anything to the table.

Survival could well and truly be a numbers game, so having an extra pair of hands around could help. If you’re the only one in your family/group that can shoot? What happens when you get sick?

You can’t be on guard 24/7, you will need to sleep and eat and use the bathroom. Having another adult or two, especially ones you know so well can put your mind at ease and allow for a normal existence as possible after SHTF.

Personally, I have a mental list of my friends. They each have a tick or a cross to indicate who will get in and who won’t. They are ranked based on what they could bring to the group such as the right mindset, physical or mental abilities and even just have the right attitude.

Is it time for you to run through your friends and decide who is likely to show up, who gets in and who gets the boot?

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Your neighbors may actually be the very first people to show up on your doorstep if you have chosen to bug in or go underground to your bunker. They are likely to be the first tough decision you have to make and I think this section will split you 50/50 down the middle.

You see half of us get on fine with our neighbors, we have them around for dinner and lend each other garden tools, the other half of us argue with them about the parking situation out front or the overhanging tree branches that you don’t want in your garden, or how much noise they make.

This is why I think it will also be an easier decision as you either like your neighbors or you don’t. It’s also likely that you are aware of their mindset and if they are prepared themselves or not.

Ever get funny questions about what it is you’re doing in that garage and what’s with all the security cameras etc? Small conversation topics like those can be an in-road to the mindset of your neighbor and to find out what he/she is really like and how likely it is that they have a grip on their families survival.


When it comes to strangers, the vast majority of you will take the “Stop, or I will shoot you” approach. Some will be hidden away or at a retreat away from people and traffic.

I myself would likely take this approach too, I mean you don’t know or trust that person walking in the park, let alone the guy with no food and a family to feed.

However, I want to bring up an alternative, something that would make me question my initial response and perhaps let them in after all.

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Bring Your Own


Say a guy and his wife with their small child comes around, they see you grabbing last minute stuff from the garage and he asks if he can hole up in your place as their home was burnt down by rioters and looters.

His wife is sat in the truck, the bed is full of containers, backpacks and camping gear. You can see he has a rifle on his shoulder and a pistol in his belt, but he has his hands raised, so he means no harm.

He tells you they have brought everything he’s been tucked away in his garage for a rainy day like today. They have enough food, water, and ammunition to protect themselves but no shelter or friends/family in the area as they have just moved into town.

What would you do?

Me…I would talk to him some more, ask to see his preps and quiz him on how long he thinks the food would last and what skills he and his wife have.

More importantly, I’d ask what he does for a living and where they relocated from, to get an idea of the kind of terrain they are used too.

I would meet his kid and ask him some simple questions about mommy and daddy and what happened to their house. Kids are terrible liars, the younger they are, the easier it is to spot. You can also get a feeling for how scared he is, what he/she has seen and other little signs.


Let’s flip this now, the same family turns up with nothing with them. He doesn’t even have a weapon, just open hands and wife and a kid. Do you stick to your original pre-thought-out plan or turning them away?

Telling them you have only enough for a few days for your family and you will be leaving soon? Perhaps a show of force with your weapon clutched and ready to go?

Let me propose this, what if you just had a conversation with him?

Additional Skills

You can see he has no physical goods to offer, however, he tells you that he has his own business, hand building log cabins and his wife is a nurse.

Would that change your mind?

He clearly has good hands-on skills, perhaps he could help to board up the windows, fell trees for firewood or fix doors and other items.

His wife is a nurse has a great skill-set that would be in great demand. You have a first aid kit and you’ve practiced a little, but that’s not going to be enough if you lose a limb or a family member gets injured.

What would other skills be useful?

Here are just a few ideas off the top of my head:

  • Firearms experiences
  • Medical training
  • Procuring food and water (hunting and foraging)
  • Cooking
  • Electrical and Mechanical training
  • Animal Husbandry
  • Primitive Weapon Making

There are many more skills that as a group of preppers in a SHTF scenario could benefit from. There is safety in numbers and it may not be ideal or realistic to think that just yourself and your wife and 2 kids can stay alive, fend off the bad guys and survive whilst the rest of the world falls to pieces.

I hope this article has made you think more about asking questions first and shooting later. Snap decisions are often made in life and by preparing you are one step or many steps ahead of the curve.

Taking the time to stop and think what if, could literally be the difference in your families survival.

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Here’s just a glimpse of what you’ll find in The Lost Ways:

From Ruff Simons, an old west history expert, and former deputy, you’ll learn the techniques and methods used by the wise sheriffs from the frontiers to defend an entire village despite being outnumbered and outgunned by gangs of robbers and bandits, and how you can use their wisdom to defend your home against looters when you’ll be surrounded.

Native American ERIK BAINBRIDGE – who took part in the reconstruction of the native village of Kule Loklo in California, will show you how Native Americans build the subterranean roundhouse, an underground house that today will serve you as a storm shelter, a perfectly camouflaged hideout, or a bunker. It can easily shelter three to four families, so how will you feel if, when all hell breaks loose, you’ll be able to call all your loved ones and offer them guidance and shelter? Besides that, the subterranean roundhouse makes an awesome root cellar where you can keep all your food and water reserves year-round.

From Shannon Azares you’ll learn how sailors from the XVII century preserved water in their ships for months on end, even years and how you can use this method to preserve clean water for your family cost-free.

Mike Searson – who is a Firearm and Old West history expert – will show you what to do when there is no more ammo to be had, how people who wandered the West managed to hunt eight deer with six bullets, and why their supply of ammo never ran out. Remember the panic buying in the first half of 2013? That was nothing compared to what’s going to precede the collapse.

From Susan Morrow, an ex-science teacher and chemist, you’ll master “The Art of Poultice.” She says, “If you really explore the ingredients from which our forefathers made poultices, you’ll be totally surprised by the similarities with modern medicines.” Well…how would you feel in a crisis to be the only one from the group knowing about this lost skill? When there are no more antibiotics, people will turn to you to save their ill children’s lives.

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The Most Important Thing
Making Your Own Beverages: Beer to Stronger Stuff
Ginger Beer: Making Soda the Old Fashioned Way
How North American Indians and Early Pioneers Made Pemmican
Spycraft: Military Correspondence During The 1700’s to 1900’s
Wild West Guns for SHTF and a Guide to Rolling Your Own Ammo
How Our Forefathers Built Their Sawmills, Grain Mills, and Stamping Mills
How Our Ancestors Made Herbal Poultice to Heal Their Wounds
What Our Ancestors Were Foraging For? or How to Wildcraft Your Table
How Our Ancestors Navigated Without Using a GPS System
How Our Forefathers Made Knives
How Our Forefathers Made Snowshoes for Survival
How North California Native Americans Built Their Semi-subterranean Roundhouses
Our Ancestors’Guide to Root Cellars
Good Old Fashioned Cooking on an Open Flame
Learning from Our Ancestors How to Preserve Water
Learning from Our Ancestors How to Take Care of Our Hygiene When There Isn’t Anything to Buy
How and Why I Prefer to Make Soap with Modern Ingredients
Temporarily Installing a Wood-Burning Stove during Emergencies
Making Traditional and Survival Bark Bread…….
Trapping in Winter for Beaver and Muskrat Just like Our Forefathers Did
How to Make a Smokehouse and Smoke Fish
Survival Lessons From The Donner Party


  1. You people who live in the sun shine States don’t have a clue
    I live in Northern Maine with Many many feet of snow. Where
    would my bug out location be??? The prepper says bury you
    guns and food. Where?? If the shtf they will stop plowing the
    road then where could we go???
    At first I tried to tell people what was coming and they would laugh
    and say if it happens i’ll just come to your house. So I stopped
    telling them. I even lost my best friend because she did not want
    to hear it. Guess we won’t have to worry who could walk in waist
    high snow to get here?

    • Seriously, do not try to convince anyone, they will not listen. You live in a lib mecca, but you are actually in a good situation, you just need to do more research!

  2. Actually I don’t think the people that are going to take your food will be your neighbors. Organized gangs and the “Feds” will come and take it from you, If a disaster should happen martial law will be declared by presidential executive order and all food, houses, and transportation shall become the property of the state. If you fail to comply they will execute you on the spot.

    • I lived & worked in Angola during their civil war for over 7 years, I’m not sure most Americans will have a clue what to do – by just reading articles on how to prep. Even if you go through some training, it’s never enough. Still, this site is a valuable source of information. When SHTF, many will be on self destruct.

  3. I would look to work together. Otherwise it is mad max. The reality is that that is how it was for thousands of years prior. No plumbing. No running water. No stores. No conveniences. And families were communal. Numero uno was fine for ted kazinsky, but does anyone want him around? Not likely.